What dreams are made of
How many times have you heard yourself say “I wish I could……?” How many times have you planned to do something and not seen it through? How much time do you spend trying to analyse why you do not achieve specific things in your life? How many reasons do you give yourself for not achieving what you set out to do? Does any of this sound familiar?
Some years ago I remember having a discussion with a colleague of mine, about why she would never achieve her dream of becoming a nurse. I listened as she gave reason upon reason, including not knowing how to go about it. My instantaneous response was “Why not find someone who has done it and ask them how they did it?” We laughed at the simplicity of a potential solution. I then asked “What will it be like if you do nothing and continue on as you are?” My colleague’s face dropped as she said “I can’t stay here doing this all my life.” I then suggested we took a little trip into the future and imagined what it would be like if she achieved her dream. A smile appeared on her face, she looked proud and confident. “Hold that thought for a minute,” I said. “How will it be?” She proceeded to talk rapidly about how she might look and feel, what others might say, what this achievement might bring to her, and most of all, the deep sense of satisfaction she would have. As the weeks went by we started to explore the specifics of what she wanted. These discussions kept her focused on her future and all that she would need to do, and how. As a result, she began to formulate a plan. Without realising it, my colleague had left behind her negative self talk and had adjusted her language in such a way that her neurology and physiology were continually driving her towards her dream. She had, in essence, reprogrammed her way of thinking, and in a few years she was exactly where she wanted to be.
When endeavouring to make personal changes, taking a little time to free your mind and determining what is important to you in life, can be time well spent. Allowing yourself to dream and imagine, will help activate the creative process, and help you to get a sense of what it is you most want in life.
Usually there is a price to be paid for each change we make in our lives. The question we need to ask ourselves is, “Can I accept that price or do I need to adjust my goal slightly?” Ensuring that the specifics of the goals we set are what we truly desire requires a little practice.
What would it be like if you could achieve your goals more easily and stick with them, seeing them through to the end? If you could do this, what might you save and what might you need to let go of? What else could you achieve? Where might this take you? How might this new way of being benefit your and others’ lives? What could this bring you? Could you achieve more than you ever dreamed of? Do you want this now, or are you still wishing?
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” C.S. Lewis